Anti-Goal Makers Unite #Imperfect2019

Hi friends, it’s me, over here popping in between the nostalgia of old posts that need to go live from 2018 and all the fun of 2019!

Having a baby in February makes for a rather awkward start to the year.  I mean, for some reason in my head, it’s kind of like the new year starts in February when our little girl arrives.  On the other hand, I realize that if I’m not careful with that mindset, six to eight whole weeks will fly by without me even realizing it!

That leads me to the point of today’s post — goals.  We love them don’t we? I know, I do! They make me feel good when I’m on track and have a way to hold myself accountable.  They’re also a hot topic amongst most for the month of February.  (& if we’re really honest, for the month of January only, haha!)

… truth be told, I feel particularly good when I write down a goal that I’m most of the way finished with, so that I can check it off pretty quickly! (Tell me I’m not the only one?)

It’s been a little while since we’ve chatted goals around here on the blog.  It actually used to be a part of my monthly repertoire — sharing the things I needed to keep working on helped hold me accountable!

Well this year in particular, looking at 2019, I feel like the whole goal planning gig is making my brain want to turn to mush.  When people are posting about their word for the year, I’m over here like, I’m just going to be adjusting to raising a tiny human and keeping her alive.

It got me to thinking, that maybe I’m not the only one that feels like big, lofty goals, don’t seem as realistic as they used to?  In a season of transition, I don’t know how to plan that far ahead!  Who knows what our life will look like!

When life feels up in the air, rather that make tight boundaries like goals normally do, I’ve decided to set myself some thoughts to keep me anchored instead!

Basically, I’ve decided to give myself a little grace and accept a little bit of imperfection.

Anti-Goal Makers Unite & chatting about how to set goals in a season of transition | Lifestyle Blogger Lauren R Swann

Here are the things that by the end of 2019, I hope I can say:

… that Morgan and I have taken on our roles as parents and that Reese is alive and thriving.  (LOL, dreaming big here!)

… that we’re still prioritizing our marriage, even with the arrival of someone new to vie for our attention(s).

… that I’ve still made space for me to create.  I’m my best self when I’m dreaming up new projects and actually doing them.  So whether its rearranging the furniture, getting in a quick half-an-hour doodle session, arranging some flowers, or cooking up a fun meal, I want to create space and margin for me to do it!  (Granted, probably in between feedings and work and the much-needed sleep, but nonetheless!)

Other than that, the goals list, the fancy focus word of the year, or long to-do list can wait.  Right now, it’s just not the season for it, and for the first time in a long time, I’m really okay with it :)

2019, I think for so many reasons you’ll be one of my favorite years ever! & to me, that’s going to be plenty enough without adding to it! #Imperfect2019

What about you, friends? What are you dreaming up for 2019? Do you feel like you’re in a season where you’ve created a particular goal in mind? Or do you have a list to check off?

I’d love to know so that I can cheer you on!


January 16, 2019

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  1. Brea says:

    I’m so excited for you to become parents SO soon! I didn’t realize it was the final stretch! This sounds like a really healthy perspective on this new chapter!

  2. Renee says:

    I love everything you posted here. Especially the part about making your marriage a priority and space for you to create! These things are so important as a new mama!! Congrats!!!

  3. Katie says:

    Such a good perspective!!! Also, sooo excited for you guys to become parents soon!! Woo hoo! You are gonna be the best Mama!!

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